Monday, November 10, 2008

can a gal and boy be only friends( best friends) ??


Recently this question was put forward by my cousin to me, i had to ponder on the issue for a while before answering her. So here was my answer :-
Eventually No, boy and a gal cant just remain best friends, if not both, atleast one will mutually develop a "love" feeling towards the other. But may not realize it immediately. Its just once when you let go of the other person, only then we know the value of the person. Some may not agree with me, specially those who have close friends as either boy/gal. Yes there have being friendships where both usually know each other too well and they are not in love, but they remain "chaddi buddy" ( meaning -best friends). Eventually the society doesnt see them as just friends, they always make up some stories, even if two people are just having a friendly chat on the middle of the road. And then there are movies to be blamed, where they show that boy and gal cant be just friends..they turn into lover one day or the other even though they deny it initially. like for eg, kuch kuch hota hai, Jaane Tu ya jaane na......etc etc.
So the moral of the story by watching all those movies and even your parents watch them, they tend to be extra cautious if their child is spending a lot of time on phone especially with one friend ( of the opposite sex). Then lot of confusion and doubts in everyone mind....so think over it...how many of you can actually say that we (boy and gal) can be best friends ???
Here i would like to bring out one more point, there are some extreme cases, wherein, the guy and gal cant accept their relation as just "friends or lovers", so they claim to the society that they are in a "brother- sister" relationship....they just feel brotherly or sisterly feelings towards the other.....so are they trying to hide their feelings by doing this or is something really cooking???

8 comments:

greathearts said...

You are right about the brother-sister relationship kinda thing...Things have gone so out of place that girls can't go out with any guy...incl. her dad...

moi said...

Hey thanks for commenting...yes things have gone out of place for gals specially but if we know that we arent wrong, then why to feel guilt?

magicalharsh said...

why not....frm mah experience i can say that there lies no problem in a gal n boy being best of frndz.....

Carol said...

i think ders no problem in being best of frens. It actually does not matter what ppl think. I haven't experienced this thing.. A general opinion.

Akansha Agrawal said...

A guy n a girl can definitely be just friends... but most probably the society isn't going to believe it!

Jaky Astik said...

Yes they can..as long as they have different plans. If they are not determined with their plans,..the universe builds a plan for them and puts the attraction between them..simple..

VIKRAM KARVE said...

Sure a Boy and Girl can be friends - especially if they are colleagues at work or classmates in school or college

Sadaf Hafeez said...

I'd say one better avoid such friendship...yes it may make life seem boring...but eventually its good to be without the complicated emotional baggage that comes with it...

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